Even when my husband is having a tough day,
one would rarely be able to notice,
because of the way he treats me.
He kisses me good morning and good night.
He hugs me hello and good-bye.
He thanks me, and compliments me throughout the day.
I did not ask for it.
I did not expect it.
In fact, I didn't even know this much kindness
in a relationship was possible.
He has taught me so much!
He has taught me so much!
When I think of the way he loves me, I feel a little guilty.
I haven't really done much to deserve all of this sweet treatment.
However, I fully accept it!
He loves me more than enough,
and I am constantly attempting to make him feel just as loved.
I believe that this is the perfect example of when
"Keeping Score"
"Keeping Score"
in a relationship is healthy.
Keeping score should not be about women and men keeping track of whether their partners “work” as hard as they do.
We all need to know that our partners are just as dedicated to making the relationship work, but when one spouse is overly concerned with making sure that the workload is distributed equally between the two, it gives that person less time to worry about the love and consideration that he or she is giving to the other spouse.
We all need to know that our partners are just as dedicated to making the relationship work, but when one spouse is overly concerned with making sure that the workload is distributed equally between the two, it gives that person less time to worry about the love and consideration that he or she is giving to the other spouse.
Men and women who are worried about “fairness” in their relationships, can tend to put little to no value on what their spouses contribute to the marriage.
Keeping score should be about women and men loving their partners to their fullest abilities.
If we are going to keep a mental checklist, let it be of all the wonderful things that our spouses do for us so that we will to be more considerate and loving towards them.
The kind of relationship where a couple is less worried about what “you can do for me” and is more concerned with “what I can do for you” thrives beautifully!
My husband and I don't rotate responsibilities.
Saying prayer with the kids, doing the dishes, washing the laundry, getting up with the children, keeping the pantry stocked…are things that I would do regardless of whether I worked outside of the home or not.
I do these things because I take pride in my role as the woman of the home.
My husband did not “expect” these things of me in the beginning of our relationship, but he was always certain to tell me how much he “appreciated” what I did, and his loving affirmations worked.
While I have always had these expectations of myself,
because I know that God expects us to be “diligent and fruitful,”
I now do it even happier,
because I have a husband who often shows appreciation for the things that I do.
because I know that God expects us to be “diligent and fruitful,”
I now do it even happier,
because I have a husband who often shows appreciation for the things that I do.
I am constantly reminding myself to thank him for the things that he does,
because I know that I am lucky to have him here to help.
So today's challenge is to...
Think of a few things that our husband (or wife) does to make our lives a little easier
and send him a text thanking him!
