This weekend my husband had to work in Tucson and I decided to tag along. The children were going to be away at their other homes and so we decided to use this opportunity as a little getaway for two.
As we were walking out of the hotel to get our bags, we both stopped at the door. After standing there for a few moments, my husband realized the door was not going to open. He said, “I thought it would open automatically.”
I started giggling and said, “I was waiting for it to open automatically too!” I knew it was not an automatic door, but it has become a habit to stand there when my husband is next to me and let him open it.
“Spoiled.” He teased and well, it is true.
I am grateful for him every day. We are constantly thanking each other and reminding each other how blessed we are to have our relationship. We don’t let the kind deeds that we do for each other go unnoticed, but this was different…it was like an “ah-ha” moment.
Ah-ha, I really am a creature of habit and it has become a habit to let him spoil me!
My husband always opens my door when we are out running errands, at dinner or just getting into the car at the house. He is a gentleman and I noticed it right away after our first few dates.
On our first date, I met him at a restaurant. That day he waited for me in front of the restaurant, paid for dinner and after dinner, he walked me to my car.
On the second date, he brought me a single rose.
On the third date, he brought me chocolate pretzels. I didn’t even remember telling him they were my favorite, but later he told me he read it on my About Me section on Myspace and wanted to surprise me. He was paying attention to things that I did not even expect!
On the fourth date, he stood up each time I rose up from my chair to walk away from the table and he offered to help me drive my grandma home.
He spoiled me. He made me feel like a lady and he still does.
Even on the days that I have no makeup on, paint in my hair, stinky morning breath and mismatched housework clothes he tells me I am beautiful. I do not always believe him, but… it is the thought that counts!
As I was unpacking our Christmas ornaments this year, I came across the very first ornament I bought him. It was a boat and when I bought it I had our names printed on it along with the year and the words “Cheese and margaritas.” The boat reminded me of one of the very first moments that his spoiling me caused me to realize…whoa, I am falling for this guy.He took me and a few friends out on his boat during the first summer that we were dating and while we were out, like a true gentleman, he kept offering us food and drinks from the icebox.
At one point, everyone was eating sandwiches and as I was drying off from the water, I said aloud to my friends that I was not hungry and would probably just have a drink and some cheese. Two minutes later, my husband was handing me an opened drink fresh out of the icebox and an unwrapped a slice of cheese.
He was listening. I was his number one priority that day… and have felt like it every day since.
It wasn’t the things that won me over, it was the thought.
He listened and paid attention to my needs from the very beginning. Even when I had no idea that he was listening, he was.
Romance is an important part of any new relationship, but because of my history, I had learned to look past the initial “wining and dining”. Any man can tell a woman what she wants to hear, and any man can buy a woman a few small gifts to make her feel “special,” but not every man truly gives from the heart.
My husband did. He lived the best he could and most importantly, he was a believer.
After being together for 3 years, my husband’s courteous behavior and considerate ways are strong and show no signs of fading. He continues to make me feel special each day, using some traditional tactics, like opening my door and in other ways, when he gets creative and tries to surprise me.The way he loves me has made me realize that his love for me is about much more than…well… ME…
I Peter 3:7, teaches that the husband is to honor and love his wife.
Because my husband is a believer, he honors God.
Because he honors God, he also honors me!
These values are instilled in him. They are a way of life, and because of that…
I am spoiled.
Today, I am linking up with Julie at Marriage Mondays
